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Joy Means Closing Your Gap

By MikePoster | August 21, 2008

We as humans spend a lot of our time and energy chasing after things we believe will make us happy. Everyone has their own ideas of what will make them happy. Some people make a point of pursuing those things. Others don’t believe they can achieve what they want and spend their lives miserable.

When a person feels unhappy, the reason is always that they are not closing their gap. Their gap is the distance between where they are and where they want to be. The greater the distance, the less happy they are. Conversely, the less the distance, the happier they are.

It’s not possible to close one’s gap completely in this physical plane, nor would we want to. The gap is what keeps us motivated to continue expanding and growing. When we achieve something that we want, there’s always something else to want. In order to get what we want, we have to grow and become a match to it. If we don’t grow, we don’t make any progress toward our goal.

As I said earlier, we are all pursuing happiness in one way or another. No one wants anything for any other reason than that they believe they will feel better once they have it. The irony is that focusing on not having it will keep them from ever getting it. It’s when we learn to enjoy the process of achieving whatever it is we want, i.e. enjoy the journey, then everything we want comes to us easily.

Most people believe that the goal is what they want and once they achieve it “everything will be all right.” Then, they get it and find that there’s something else to want and now everything isn’t all right again. Very rarely is anything we want completely satisfying in the way we thought it would be when we decided we wanted it. As the saying goes, “the chase is the thing”, not the thing itself.

People would be much happier if they could find a way to accept that there will always be something to want. It’s the wanting that keeps life flowing through us and keeps life interesting. If we ever got to where there was nothing more to want there would be no point to life.

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